One of the constant battles I face as a serious Dominant and Top is the perception that S/M is all about pain. Well it is not, it is about pleasure, control and release... in my opinion. Yes.. there are Tops (Doms) who think I am "weak" because I take a deep and sincere interest in the welfare of my sub. You see like humanity, the Fetish world is made up of groups and individuals. We all have different idea's of what "is" and will "be".

Some Dom's feel that since they are the Dom then what they say goes and your wants or fantasies are irrelevant. This is also the group I should point out which usually don't like to use "Safe" words either.

SAFE WORDS: Words or words used during a scene or event to inform your partner that a limit has been reached.

I personally like the common stop light method..

Green: Everything is OK.. continue.
Yellow: Things are getting to my emotional, mental or physical limit.
Red: Ok.. enough.. lets end this scene.

For me... the point is to push your pleasure limits and release your soul. If I can achieve this goal by use of a whip then, so be it. However, I am also not setting out to damage someone either.

Usually before I begin a scene with someone new I sit them down and get into her head. I like to feel what's in her soul so I can best help this individual find their own release. This is what I do, help people find their own sexual way as part of their life journey.

Western society often prevents people from expressing who they are sexually. We force individuals to conform to this predetermined standard which is grossly unfair. Those who refuse to fit into this mold are ceremoniously punished.

This is especially true for women, and men who are submissive. For women the greatest Taboo is to be a "slut". Let us not forget that women are not supposed to really enjoy sex and have needs outside of their husbands. Even worse, take responsibility for her own pleasure and go after it. In most social situations, I have observed when a women calls another women a "slut" what she really is saying is.. " I hate her for having the guts to pursue her own pleasure.. and get it to."

As it has always been, individuals who seek their own form of pleasure don't fit into "the" mold. Whether a women who openly ejoys her sexuality or a man who desires to be submissive. Each is socially unacceptable and you are not only made to feel devient, but labelled as one as well.

To this I say .. " Fuck'em ". (Figuitively of course)

If your a women who desires to be tied up and then enjoy sex with several different men and or women then so be it. This in truth is who you are. To deny it, only causes unhappiness and more pain. There comes a point in time when you have to stop hiding who you are and be true to yourself and your needs. If you're a man who has no interest in being the "Male" model of Masculinity then find a nice dominant women ( man ) and be happy.

The whole point is to let go of your current boundries and experience the joy of who you are and what turns you on. We focus so much on the prim and proper that we lose sight of the joy of crude and crasp. For example.. a true situation:

Marie and I were at a "swing" convention and this couple who had read some of the columns I wrote for various swing magazines came up and introduced themselves. As it turned out after sharing drinks, dinner conversation and some great sex; I learned that Marnie ( the wife) had what she deemed was a "Nasty" fantasy.

As I lay there proped up on my arm while my finger explored her sex I had her tell me about it. In the end I found it rather charming as I brought her to orgasm. Later, I went to a few male half of couples I knew and asked their assistance in something I was planning. Well the next night I had a little surprise for her.

Marnie was lead blind folded into the hospitality suite which had been converted into a play room. In the center was a wooden bondage horse which allowed the subject to be bent over but supported by their hands and knees. This clever piece of bondage furniture brings ones ass and other orifices to an accessible hip level.

I nodded to her husband (who had since approved of the planned event) and he brought her forth.

" Ok.. guys come on.. what are you up too ?" She said with nervous but excited mirth in her voice. Her husband lead her onto the device as he gave her instructions where to put her legs and arms. For the first time I spoke:" Here are the rules.. you are to speak only when spoken to. When you do speak it will end in Master." Her husband made the final adjustmnts to her padded leather wrist cuffs.

" Do you understand ?" I continued.

" Yes".

Will, her husband smiled and shook his head, he knew she had made her first mistake. A sharp "thack" echoed followed by a sudden cry of surprise as I stroked her exposed ass with the wide leather striped cat-o-nine tails.

" Ahh honey... I would take Sir Magic seriously if I were you. I have no intentions of letting you loose until he says so."

Marnie's body suddenly slumped as she realized she was not going to talk her way out of this one.

" Yes.. I understand Master," She said.

Her ass squirmed slightly waiting for another touch, wondering what I was going to do next. Taking a soft leather flogger I slowly began to whip her behind and lower legs. Marnies response was almost immediate as she moaned loudly to the soft warming sensations which spread over her back side.

As I worked her, my personally invited guests filled the room including one other previous female sub I had worked with in the past. Whitney came over lowered her head and greeted me. I paused for a moment to place my index finger thru the wide loop on her collar and raised her head to mine.

" Hello.. Slut. How have you been ?"

I kissed her tenderly and looked up to acknowledge her current girfriend/lover, who called herself "Flame".

Earlier that same week I had been in bed with both Flame and Whitney and the women is named approriately. Where Whitney was short slim with the classic black haired gothic look. Flame was a bright red haired, 5'7, blued eyed, big breasted, Irish lass who basically fucked me to near death. The sad part was she was a lesbian who occationally indulged in select men. Personally, I took it to be an honor because Flame had this come fuck me energy that everyone responded to.

Anyway...... Flame blew me a kiss in return and smiled. Memories of our tryst was doing strange things to my mind and I quickly blocked it out.

" I see you came " I said to Whitney. She looked at me and smiled," I haven't yet. Besides, I would never miss one of your little get togethers they are never boring. "

By this time most of my invitees had arrived and Marnie was starting to sqirm from the serious lack of attention and the fact she was getting wetter by the minute.

I had Whitney hand me my soft fur mittens and I put them on. Slowly I begin to work them over Marnie's back and ass. Her body squirmed and pulled against her bonds as she whimpperd from the soft sensual pleasure of fur against her skin.

" Oh come on ", Flame said in my ear, "take her across already."

What she was referring to was the clear line between what your mind percieves as pain and pleasure. With a little skill you can litteraly cross someone over and they actually orgasm from stimuli which normally they would consider painful.

I took up a large but soft swede tailed flogger. Marnie jumpped then moaned as it stroked across her bare ass. This particular flogger was not designd really to hurt as much as create a warm impact sensation. " Thack " echoed again.. and again. In mid stroke I switched to a set of light Cat-o-nine tails and supprised her. Marnie cried out from the change in sensation which hurt just a little bit. Her juices could be obviously seen by anyone who stood behind her as I continued whipping and paddling her until she crossed over.

I ran my hand over he reddend ass. It was warm to the touch and sensitive. Marnie's growns and wimpers could still be heard in a room full of 10 couples. Slowly I slid my hand down between her legs and felt her wetness. She groaned loudly in pleasure as my fingers entered her. She was beyond hot as her juices had already puddled beneath her. Flame stood off to one side licking her lips like the hungry animal she was. After a second she looked up at me and realized she'd been caught in her moment of imaginary lust. I motioned with my index finger for her to come hither. She stood before me, one dom to another. " I know what you're thinking," said. " Go for it." She smile like a Cheshire cat and stood behind Marnie. Flame placed her hands on either side of Marnie's hips, then slowly knelt down on to her knees. She then slide her hands down between Marnie's legs and parted her open with her thumbs. Marnies gasped and cried out as she felt Flame's hot tongue probe her slick folds.

Flame was obviously lost after a few minutes as Marnie's cries of pleasure echoed thru the room and from what I was told later out into the hallway of the hotel. Flame's tongue danced upon her wet womenhood driving her higher and higher. At one point you could see Flame was litterally tongue fucking her as Marnie pulled and strained against her leather padded cuffs which held her fast to the wooden bondage horse.

" Flame..... ", I said. She didn't respond, she kept right on licking.

"Flame !"

I reached down and pulled her head back by her hair gently, breaking her contact. Bright blue eyes blazed as she looked into my own black pools of souless depth. For a brief moment we dueled, two wills locked in spirtual combat only we could percieve. As quick as it begin it was over and she stood.

" I promise.. later " , I commented.

" I'm going to hold you to that Sir Magic ."

I turned to my guests who by now were all excited by the show before them. It was no supprise to see Frank in the corner his dick out while Kathy stroked it for him. Of course with those two, he was openly fingering her in return. I looked at this fun and lusty pair who we had partied with many times before, I motioned with my head for them to come over.

" You know what to do, " I said.

Kathy got this big grin, cooded and looked up at Frank. " Fucker baby ", she said. Frank wasted no time in sliding himself deep within Marnie. An " Ahhhha " escaped forth from her as he penitrated her wetness. Slowly he began to grind and stroke then fuck her in earnest.

Of the ten couples present only one were not T.A.N ( Tested Aids Negative ). Most everyone present had been around the scene for a while and had provided me copies of their recent ( Within 30 days ) paper work earlier. Which I will take this time to point out that if your going to play in my world, then have the courtesy to get tested several times a year. Many in the swing world are now carrying their "paperwork" with them to conventions and events. In my case, my "paperwork" goes back about 5 years and covers everything. ( That's what three ring binders are for. )

Marnie, as I had found out earlier, was a screamer. So I instructed Kathy to take a stool and place it infront of Marnie's head and to sit. I stood behind Kathy supporting her as she oppened her legs and pulled Marnies face between then. She leaned back into me and began to groan as Marnie began to eat her. Within moments we had two lustful women crying out as Marnie had the best of both worlds. From behind she was being fucked hard by Frank while in front she was eating his wife all this and bondage to.

It was a carnal scene which continued for about fifteen minutes before I stepped in and told Frank to make it quick, by my plan it was going to be a long night. A few mintues later frank growled, grunted then shot off in side her. A moment later Kathy again came in Marnie's face then dismounted from the stool.

" It's mine " she announced, to Mary who had already taken up postion behind Marnie tongue at the ready. Kathy dove between Marnie's legs and upturned ass to lick Frank's cum from her pussy. For a moment I honestly thought these two were actually going to fight over it but Kathy surprised me when she kissed Mary sharing her man's cum.

A muffled sound came from Marnie I turned to see her mouth was already stuff with another persons cock as she sucked it hungerly. Thirty seconds after Mary and Kathy had finshed Carl our non tested newbie slipped on a condom and easly slid into her. Once again the sounds of lustful passion filled the air. I leaned back against the wall and watched as my party had taken a life of its own. A small group of men and women were standing around our bound slut touching her and cheering Carl on. As he was pumping for all he was worth I heard a sound of passion and then slurping sound as her ministrations had brought Bob off in her mouth. She squeeled in delight just as he pulled loose drained and another party go'er took his place.

For the most part for the next 5 hours until near dawn, Marnie got her brains fucked out. In the end by my count she'd fucked 11 men, licked 7 women and swallowed 9 loads. ..And before I forget, yes Flame did finally after we untied her half way thru the night, get to lay down and eat Marnie to her hearts content. Of course these numbers don't cover the other people and the fucking and sucking that went on between them. I would be lieing if I said I didn't join in, I mean after all I was the host.

My point which got lost somewhere between here and there in telling of this true tail is this:

Be true to your desires. You are what you are and if that means you're a slut then so be it.

It is your life, you have to live it and society I'm afraid is not only wrong but unfair.

I gave Marnie her dream in a safe environment and now a year later she's happier because of it. She has come to grips that she not only dreams of fucking both men and women but she's now done it. As she told me a few months ago, " I have every intention of doing it again. I loved it and it has changed how I feel about myself. I feel better.. I feel "Me" ".