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Let me share a few techniques I’ve used in anal play.

The virgin butt:

If I’m working with a Star Trek butt, (where no man has gone before) I never move at warp speed. (Sorry couldn’t help it, I was Lost.. In.. Space .. for a moment)

A N Y W A Y..

I prefer to lay my bottom on the bed and tie them face down, spread eagled. In the case of a newbie I like to have soft-lighted candles and incense burning to set a subdued atmosphere. Music is important and you want to pick something that has a beat between 8 to 12 beats per minute. This will help facilitate not only relaxation but subspace as well.

I start with having the bottom do a series of deep breathing exercises usually about 5 to 10 deep slow breaths. During this time you want to place your hand on the base of their spine and breathe with them. This helps establish rapport or a ‘connection’ to the bottom.

Once this connection is made I begin the scene with fur and feathers. This is where music comes in. I personally like to move with the music coordinating my hands, speed and pressure to the mood of the melodies. This accomplishes several things: it brings the mind and body of the bottom into line. It also allows them to shed any anxiety of what is about to happen.

In the next phase I put on rubber gloves, take out a small vibrator and anal lube. The gloves give your hands (nails) a ultra smooth surface and take care of hygiene issues since you will be touching other parts of their body later on.

We begin with a soft anal massage. You want to make circles around the anus, using your thumbs in wide sweeping motions. The primary goal here is to desensitize the bottom’s natural reflex to having their anus touched. The secondary goal is direct muscle relaxation of the first set of sphincter muscles.

If you insert a finger about one half-inch into your’s or your bottom’s anus, pressing your fingertip against the side, you will feel the two sphincter muscles. There is less than a quarter-inch between them. The external sphincter is controlled by the central nervous system - meaning voluntary muscles like your hand. You can readily tense and relax this sphincter whenever you want.

The internal sphincter is quite different. This muscle is controlled by the involuntary or autonomic part of the nervous system, which governs such functions as heartbeat and stress response.

This is the muscle, which reacts to fear, stress and anxiety and gives us what the Military calls the “pucker factor”. This muscle is where most of your resistance and pain will come from and the muscle we have to Top into compliance.

Take your time. An anal massage should be no less than 15 minutes. Once the bottom’s bottom starts to move in the dance of pleasure or some form thereof you are ready for the next phase.

This is where I lube up the vibrator (1.25 to 1.75 wide no more than 5 inches tall) and begin working it in VERY slowly. The idea here is the old advance and retreat. Every time you move it in about an inch, retreat and do it again. The whole point is to gradually open and let the vibrations relax and desensitize the inner sphincter.

Eventually if you take your time you’ll work the whole vibrator in leaving about an inch sticking out. Now the fun begins because out come the Floggers, paddles and crops. There is something about having a vibrator stuck up one’s back passage while your Top goes to town, which drives many bottoms absolutely crazy.

A word of warning, some bottoms like having you hit the vibrator with a flogger during the spank me phase. However I recommend that for serious anal devotees and not for the first time out. If you do not have this kind of control with a flogger NOT to hit the vibrator then don’t do it. With some people you can UNDO everything you’ve just spent 45 minutes doing with one accidental strike.

Once you have flogged, cropped, paddled or belted your bottom into sub space it is now time to claim the prize. - Please don’t forget to REMOVE the vibrator first - - Not doing so is advanced play and another chapter

Lube up your Domhood or strap-on for you Domme’s and enter the “Final Frontier”. In many cases in dealing with female bottoms I have found myself grateful I tied them down first. Personally I’ve never had a bottom who didn’t achieve orgasm or several with my using this technique or variations thereof.

Some obligatory warnings for the first time out or ‘IN’ so to speak.

What goes into the rectum does not go into the vagina

The rectum is NOT straight. After a short canal area the rectum curves toward the front of the body so take it easy on the hard thrust for a few sessions.

The rectum does not produce lubrication like the vagina but only a small amount of mucus. Therefore, rectal penetration always requires a lubricant. Chemical additives should be avoided. Water-based lubricants are latex-compatible (condoms).

An enema prior to anal play is recommended especially for you anal retentive, obsessive compulsive, neat freaks.

So there you have it, one of my techniques for anal play. I also suggest you buy and read this book “The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women” for more details of how’s and why’s.

or
Anal Pleasure & Health by Jack Morin

Also
my favorite anal plug that I have my sub’s wear as part of their daily life training can be found and purchased
here.

If you have any other questions please ask.

Regards,

Sir Magic

Magic’s World.
Http://darkangel.com

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