6 Proven right I suspect
I learned a long time ago that often force of will and one’s character makes the difference in overcoming “some” things.
A few weeks ago I told someone that I didn’t think they had the “character” to overcome a specific situation and make it work. Now we all know I can discuss rather competently the concept of manifesting one’s own reality. In this case I was hoping that she would prove me wrong and I was giving her the opportunity to do so. I made it clear show me force of will, show me emotional commitment instead of hedging one’s bet and playing it safe. In short no emotional risk no reward, not this time.
But it looks like this person has fallen back on their old “avoidance” character flaws and chosen NOT deal. Some how emotional cowardice is the term that comes to mind at this moment. Too bad since our agreement she was NOT to do that and other things which at this point has been violated in my view.
In discussions with a “fan” (which will become an essay one of these days) she had this to say on the subject:
” Sometimes, if something seems too good to be true…we will sabatoge. Sometimes, when we are accustomed to a certain kind of relationship…or a certian outcome…the sabatoge and manipulation involved in that….is simply because even a BAD relationship is somehow more comforting…if that is what we are FAMILIAR with. To have something good and healthy presented to us….is frightening enough in it’s unfamiliarity as to be threatening. It’s generally a sign that someone is unwilling to change, evolve, grow….and likely it goes beyond the lifestyle, or relationships…and just exists as part of our nature.”
Interesting, now not all of it applies however even I am subject to forgetting the obvious and the basics rules of humanity.
“No body is special”
Meaning: We are all subject to the same rules of human behavior and in most cases there are NO exceptions. As a trend the more intellectual you are the more susceptible you are to the delusion you are an exception.
I’ll write more on this when I have some balance and prospective on this at the moment I will admit I don’t. But I do know this, I gave this person a fair opportunity to prove me wrong. I didn’t manifest this, this failure IF IT IS one, IS ALL on them.
In the meantime I’m going to go take in a play party and maybe do some heavy topping.
- I think we all have a hard time overcoming who we are. Since we often do not see our own faults and have a hard time accepting that someone other than ourselves knows us better than we do.This makes it hard for us to change or overcome things at times. Yet as evolution has proven time and time again we either adapt or die out.
- Kandie Oct 29, 09:27 PM #
- Sir - i don’t know about others-i’m new to BDSM, still “testing” the water, needing direction, but it’s so frightening to talk w/a D and find that they know my soul without my even talking about it…anyway, i enjoy your thoughts. c