6 Proven right I suspect

I learned a long time ago that often force of will and one’s character makes the difference in overcoming “some” things.

A few weeks ago I told someone that I didn’t think they had the “character” to overcome a specific situation and make it work. Now we all know I can discuss rather competently the concept of manifesting one’s own reality. In this case I was hoping that she would prove me wrong and I was giving her the opportunity to do so. I made it clear show me force of will, show me emotional commitment instead of hedging one’s bet and playing it safe. In short no emotional risk no reward, not this time.

But it looks like this person has fallen back on their old “avoidance” character flaws and chosen NOT deal. Some how emotional cowardice is the term that comes to mind at this moment. Too bad since our agreement she was NOT to do that and other things which at this point has been violated in my view.

In discussions with a “fan” (which will become an essay one of these days) she had this to say on the subject:

” Sometimes, if something seems too good to be true…we will sabatoge. Sometimes, when we are accustomed to a certain kind of relationship…or a certian outcome…the sabatoge and manipulation involved in that….is simply because even a BAD relationship is somehow more comforting…if that is what we are FAMILIAR with. To have something good and healthy presented to us….is frightening enough in it’s unfamiliarity as to be threatening. It’s generally a sign that someone is unwilling to change, evolve, grow….and likely it goes beyond the lifestyle, or relationships…and just exists as part of our nature.”

Interesting, now not all of it applies however even I am subject to forgetting the obvious and the basics rules of humanity.

“No body is special”

Meaning: We are all subject to the same rules of human behavior and in most cases there are NO exceptions. As a trend the more intellectual you are the more susceptible you are to the delusion you are an exception.

I’ll write more on this when I have some balance and prospective on this at the moment I will admit I don’t. But I do know this, I gave this person a fair opportunity to prove me wrong. I didn’t manifest this, this failure IF IT IS one, IS ALL on them.

In the meantime I’m going to go take in a play party and maybe do some heavy topping.

Later ~

Magic

  1. I think we all have a hard time overcoming who we are. Since we often do not see our own faults and have a hard time accepting that someone other than ourselves knows us better than we do.This makes it hard for us to change or overcome things at times. Yet as evolution has proven time and time again we either adapt or die out.
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  2. Sir - i don’t know about others-i’m new to BDSM, still “testing” the water, needing direction, but it’s so frightening to talk w/a D and find that they know my soul without my even talking about it…anyway, i enjoy your thoughts. c

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    it’s generally a sign that someone is unwilling to change, evolve,
    grow….and likely it goes beyond the lifestyle, or relationships…and
    just exists as part of our nature.”

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    Wow you are really good with words and you seem to have learnt a lot over the years, Me, i have always been in total control of myself until last year...funny how one person can have you look at things differently, i used to believe that statement what your 'fan' said or words to that effect but i came to realise i wasnt on a path to self distruction in all my relationships i was actually seeking, i didnt know what i was seeking buntil i found it.
    See now i have always believed doms were control freaks but since being in the lifestyle i realised that they are far from it and in fact its the sub in control as they give the dom the power doms dont take it, anyway sorry im rambling,,,, back to the statement, i believe these people are afraid, afraid of who they are and afraid of what they can be and once the guidance is in place they push to see if your 'just like the rest' i kno i did and still do only i am being taught a new way its funny isnt it how you never knew what was wrong with you and once you realise it all slots into place, and once you eet the dom worthy of your soul n heart n life its crazy to see that they know moe about yu, than you do x
    Does this make sense, i tend to go off in diff directions a lot thats why i dont do blogs.

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    following after comment #2, I am also new and testing those waters. unfortunately I am without guidance, moreover it feels like research with no chance to experience things fully (due to circumstances beyond control right now). I agree it is a bit of a shock to find in talking with a D that they know me all too well inside. As I only have had one person in which to share this with I didn't know if it was the fact that he did know me or something else. I enjoy your insights and it does help to know the details of things as I go. Thank you

 
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